As though it isn’t hard enough being a teenage girl

The following is such a prime example of the idiocy and asshattery of basic health and wellness here in the US that I feel compelled to mention it. I just received mail from Julianna’s school and when I opened it, behold, it was a summary of her height and weight yadda yadda yadda.

It didn’t take long for me to notice her bmi was in the 70 percentiles.


Upon further examination, she had gone from 65 inches in eighth grade to 64 inches in ninth grade.

A few thoughts; do these people not know that teenagers don’t generally shrink.

Girls tend to be sensitive about weight and bmi without this.

Bone density and muscle mass will add to bmi without increasing dress size.

Julianna is healthy and active. She is also 57 inches tall, weight unknown,  and wears anything from a 00 to a size 2.


Debra Baker's photo.

Doing out of love instead of over thinking

At church, we have communion together on the first Sunday of the month usually during the third worship song.

This Sunday, Emily was behind me and she was holding her squirmy baby and I felt as though I should offer her my bread and grape juice. Although I usually over-think these moments, yesterday, I just offered Emily the communion and she took it with a heartfelt “thank-you.”

I took another trip to the communion table, picked up another cup and bread, took some time to examine my heart and thank God for everything He has done for me and started  worrying about looking silly, being intrusive etc. etc. etc.

After church, Emily thanked me and I realized she was sincere. She said it blessed her in that moment to know that I, as a mom of many, understood the relentless stresses that come with nurturing little children full-time. The small gesture blessed her and affirmed the work she was doing.

I am so glad I just offered Emily the cup and bread instead of over analyzing the situation.

As long as there is love in your heart, the silly thing that comes to mind will likely bless someone.

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